Guys have (weight) issues too

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Guys have always been taught that weight seldom matters. Be rich, be powerful, be successful and women will flock to you.

But it matters. To some of us, it matters more than others. To begin:

I’ve been bulimic. I’ve been diagnosed bipolar, ADHD and clinically depressed. I’ve weighed as much as 245lbs and as little as 155lbs. I’ve gained and lost 35lbs in less than three months. I’ve set my clothing on fire, broken my hand on an escalator and punched through a door. I’ve been handcuffed three times, never for the aforementioned reasons. I was accused of rape by my fraternity president AFTER the girl claimed her friend had made it up. I had to go to court to fight a charge made by a bitter girl from a group home I worked at for three months.

Is it because I’m unhappy? Nope. I love my life. Is it because I have body issues? Not sure of that, either. Is it because I’m crazy? Maybe.

Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.

Live your life open.

Hi, I’m tdhurst. Nice to meet you.

Props to @skinnyjeans.

Tyler HurstGuys have (weight) issues too

54 Comments on “Guys have (weight) issues too”

  1. Matthew

    I respect your honesty in this post. It probably wasn’t easy to put all of this out there, so big kudos for the courage to do it.

  2. Matthew

    I respect your honesty in this post. It probably wasn’t easy to put all of this out there, so big kudos for the courage to do it.

  3. JoshuaStrebel

    I get the whole transparency thing. And kudos you feel like sharing.

    But there is fine between sharing and over-sharing. Growing up my mother was one of the types that would spill her life story to grocery clerk. You the know the type. Clerk says “hello ma’am”, mom would proceed to share all manner of personal details about her self, family, work, etc. At 5 years old it was a real pleasure for me when mom would tell the clerk she sewn/made me underwear. Even better when she proceeded to drop my drawers in the checkout line to show said underwears to clerk. I may be permanently scarred from this. So look there I am over-sharing myself… fail.

    The point I am trying to make is there are socially appropriate times and places to share things.

    Awesome for those that wish to be a pane of glass and share everything. But not everyone around them may be comfortable or appreciate that level of openness. In a grocery store checkout line, professional setting, etc.. there are social norms of conversation that are there for the benefit of everyone.

    IMHO the “transparency” fad can be taken too far.

  4. JoshuaStrebel

    I get the whole transparency thing. And kudos you feel like sharing.

    But there is fine between sharing and over-sharing. Growing up my mother was one of the types that would spill her life story to grocery clerk. You the know the type. Clerk says “hello ma’am”, mom would proceed to share all manner of personal details about her self, family, work, etc. At 5 years old it was a real pleasure for me when mom would tell the clerk she sewn/made me underwear. Even better when she proceeded to drop my drawers in the checkout line to show said underwears to clerk. I may be permanently scarred from this. So look there I am over-sharing myself… fail.

    The point I am trying to make is there are socially appropriate times and places to share things.

    Awesome for those that wish to be a pane of glass and share everything. But not everyone around them may be comfortable or appreciate that level of openness. In a grocery store checkout line, professional setting, etc.. there are social norms of conversation that are there for the benefit of everyone.

    IMHO the “transparency” fad can be taken too far.

  5. JoshuaStrebel

    In hindsight.. my comment kind of threadjacked your post, as your post was you being transparent.. not the issue being transparent. my bad.

  6. JoshuaStrebel

    In hindsight.. my comment kind of threadjacked your post, as your post was you being transparent.. not the issue being transparent. my bad.

  7. Anonymous

    You are full of such self pity it’s disgusting. For the two years I’ve known you, you have been a CONSISTENT asshole, fuck and full on cunt!

    I to was diagnosed with Bi-Polar five years ago and have NEVER been the asshole you have been/are. I take my meds everyday and see my Psychologist every 6 months and don’t blame anything I do on my “issue”.

    From what I know about you dating I find it highly likely that you’ve forced yourself on a women. At your age you still have not learned how to talk to women.

    Waaaaa I have issues, issue I want everyone’s self pity for instead of just overcoming them. Waaa I can’t overcome them so cut me some slack. You clearly are using your “issues” as an EXCUSE for being a complete ASSHOLE 100% of the time. So for two years you haven’t been on your meds? Not likely. You talk shit about people behind their backs. You make up profiles on-line to defend yourself and to Fuck with people you don’t like (for no valid reason)!

    How is it you can say “Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.” and then ask for pity in this pathetic post. You clearly have NO intention of ever changing and only look for excuses for being a complete DICK. You’ve over come NONE of your “issues” for the two years I’ve known you. And now this post!? Go Fuck yourself and stop being a complete asshole to people who have done NOTHING to you and don’t deserve it.

    Instead of asking for pity why not CHANGE, go to the doctor and take your meds just like I and everyone else does who is Bi-Polar.

  8. Anonymous

    You are full of such self pity it’s disgusting. For the two years I’ve known you, you have been a CONSISTENT asshole, fuck and full on cunt!

    I to was diagnosed with Bi-Polar five years ago and have NEVER been the asshole you have been/are. I take my meds everyday and see my Psychologist every 6 months and don’t blame anything I do on my “issue”.

    From what I know about you dating I find it highly likely that you’ve forced yourself on a women. At your age you still have not learned how to talk to women.

    Waaaaa I have issues, issue I want everyone’s self pity for instead of just overcoming them. Waaa I can’t overcome them so cut me some slack. You clearly are using your “issues” as an EXCUSE for being a complete ASSHOLE 100% of the time. So for two years you haven’t been on your meds? Not likely. You talk shit about people behind their backs. You make up profiles on-line to defend yourself and to Fuck with people you don’t like (for no valid reason)!

    How is it you can say “Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.” and then ask for pity in this pathetic post. You clearly have NO intention of ever changing and only look for excuses for being a complete DICK. You’ve over come NONE of your “issues” for the two years I’ve known you. And now this post!? Go Fuck yourself and stop being a complete asshole to people who have done NOTHING to you and don’t deserve it.

    Instead of asking for pity why not CHANGE, go to the doctor and take your meds just like I and everyone else does who is Bi-Polar.

  9. TransparntHuman

    Did Tyler blame anything he does on what he said here? Did he ask for any pity?

    You may have valid reasons for thinking Tyler’s an asshole. But this post, which is his response to attending a presentation on being authentic, shouldn’t be one of them.

  10. TransparntHuman

    Did Tyler blame anything he does on what he said here? Did he ask for any pity?

    You may have valid reasons for thinking Tyler’s an asshole. But this post, which is his response to attending a presentation on being authentic, shouldn’t be one of them.

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  12. Don Crossland

    The way your “guest” is acting, it sure sounds like it. For the record, you took very good care of my dog.

  13. Don Crossland

    The way your “guest” is acting, it sure sounds like it. For the record, you took very good care of my dog.

  14. Katie Charland

    Obviously you neither know Tyler, nor can you read. Everything about your comment shows you have a pre-determined view of a person that cannot be altered. As a result, you read the post like you wanted to and ignored what was being said, then made a jackass comment. You succeeded in getting me to feel pity for someone, unlike Tyler.

  15. Katie Charland

    Obviously you neither know Tyler, nor can you read. Everything about your comment shows you have a pre-determined view of a person that cannot be altered. As a result, you read the post like you wanted to and ignored what was being said, then made a jackass comment. You succeeded in getting me to feel pity for someone, unlike Tyler.

  16. Kyle

    Dear “Guest”

    Don’t miss this opportunity. This is huge. It’s gut check time my friend…Reveal yourself.

    And the next time you think to look down on some one, remember: Only God sits that high.

    Everybody, “guest” included, have a fantastic afternoon!

  17. Kyle

    Dear “Guest”

    Don’t miss this opportunity. This is huge. It’s gut check time my friend…Reveal yourself.

    And the next time you think to look down on some one, remember: Only God sits that high.

    Everybody, “guest” included, have a fantastic afternoon!

  18. Brian Shaler

    Not only was “Guest’s” comment inappropriate, the grammar was downright offensive to everyone.

  19. Brian Shaler

    Not only was “Guest’s” comment inappropriate, the grammar was downright offensive to everyone.

  20. Stace

    You kick people around to make yourself feel better.

    I would bet $100 that you have a parent who did this to you. True?

  21. Stace

    You kick people around to make yourself feel better.

    I would bet $100 that you have a parent who did this to you. True?

  22. Tyler Hurst

    You asked the question for your personal glorification in an attempt to shame me and at least one of my parents. It has nothing to do my with post.

    If you’re attempting some sort of catharsis, I’d hope you’d find someplace more appropriate to discuss it.

  23. Tyler Hurst

    You asked the question for your personal glorification in an attempt to shame me and at least one of my parents. It has nothing to do my with post.

    If you’re attempting some sort of catharsis, I’d hope you’d find someplace more appropriate to discuss it.

  24. Stace

    What glory am I getting out of this? You’re dissecting your mental health in front of everyone. It raises questions.

    (Also, it’s glaringly obvious that you were bullied.)

  25. Stace

    What glory am I getting out of this? You’re dissecting your mental health in front of everyone. It raises questions.

    (Also, it’s glaringly obvious that you were bullied.)

  26. Tyler Hurst

    You are a small and bitter person, just like your husband. I’m easy to
    upset, which everyone knows.
    My parents never beat me, nor was I bullied. Anything else?

  27. Tyler Hurst

    You are a small and bitter person, just like your husband. I’m easy to
    upset, which everyone knows.
    My parents never beat me, nor was I bullied. Anything else?

  28. Stephanie Quilao

    Each of us has a journey and lessons we must learn so we can grow and heal. You have been through some really tough stuff and I’m glad that my story can be helpful in your process. Each day is a new opportunity to make different choices and become wiser and better 🙂
    🙂

  29. Stephanie Quilao

    Each of us has a journey and lessons we must learn so we can grow and heal. You have been through some really tough stuff and I’m glad that my story can be helpful in your process. Each day is a new opportunity to make different choices and become wiser and better 🙂
    🙂

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