Guys have always been taught that weight seldom matters. Be rich, be powerful, be successful and women will flock to you.
But it matters. To some of us, it matters more than others. To begin:
I’ve been bulimic. I’ve been diagnosed bipolar, ADHD and clinically depressed. I’ve weighed as much as 245lbs and as little as 155lbs. I’ve gained and lost 35lbs in less than three months. I’ve set my clothing on fire, broken my hand on an escalator and punched through a door. I’ve been handcuffed three times, never for the aforementioned reasons. I was accused of rape by my fraternity president AFTER the girl claimed her friend had made it up. I had to go to court to fight a charge made by a bitter girl from a group home I worked at for three months.
Is it because I’m unhappy? Nope. I love my life. Is it because I have body issues? Not sure of that, either. Is it because I’m crazy? Maybe.
Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.
Live your life open.
Hi, I’m tdhurst. Nice to meet you.
Props to @skinnyjeans.
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I respect your honesty in this post. It probably wasn’t easy to put all of this out there, so big kudos for the courage to do it.
I respect your honesty in this post. It probably wasn’t easy to put all of this out there, so big kudos for the courage to do it.
I get the whole transparency thing. And kudos you feel like sharing.
But there is fine between sharing and over-sharing. Growing up my mother was one of the types that would spill her life story to grocery clerk. You the know the type. Clerk says “hello ma’am”, mom would proceed to share all manner of personal details about her self, family, work, etc. At 5 years old it was a real pleasure for me when mom would tell the clerk she sewn/made me underwear. Even better when she proceeded to drop my drawers in the checkout line to show said underwears to clerk. I may be permanently scarred from this. So look there I am over-sharing myself… fail.
The point I am trying to make is there are socially appropriate times and places to share things.
Awesome for those that wish to be a pane of glass and share everything. But not everyone around them may be comfortable or appreciate that level of openness. In a grocery store checkout line, professional setting, etc.. there are social norms of conversation that are there for the benefit of everyone.
IMHO the “transparency” fad can be taken too far.
I get the whole transparency thing. And kudos you feel like sharing.
But there is fine between sharing and over-sharing. Growing up my mother was one of the types that would spill her life story to grocery clerk. You the know the type. Clerk says “hello ma’am”, mom would proceed to share all manner of personal details about her self, family, work, etc. At 5 years old it was a real pleasure for me when mom would tell the clerk she sewn/made me underwear. Even better when she proceeded to drop my drawers in the checkout line to show said underwears to clerk. I may be permanently scarred from this. So look there I am over-sharing myself… fail.
The point I am trying to make is there are socially appropriate times and places to share things.
Awesome for those that wish to be a pane of glass and share everything. But not everyone around them may be comfortable or appreciate that level of openness. In a grocery store checkout line, professional setting, etc.. there are social norms of conversation that are there for the benefit of everyone.
IMHO the “transparency” fad can be taken too far.
Okay.
Okay.
In hindsight.. my comment kind of threadjacked your post, as your post was you being transparent.. not the issue being transparent. my bad.
In hindsight.. my comment kind of threadjacked your post, as your post was you being transparent.. not the issue being transparent. my bad.
You are full of such self pity it’s disgusting. For the two years I’ve known you, you have been a CONSISTENT asshole, fuck and full on cunt!
I to was diagnosed with Bi-Polar five years ago and have NEVER been the asshole you have been/are. I take my meds everyday and see my Psychologist every 6 months and don’t blame anything I do on my “issue”.
From what I know about you dating I find it highly likely that you’ve forced yourself on a women. At your age you still have not learned how to talk to women.
Waaaaa I have issues, issue I want everyone’s self pity for instead of just overcoming them. Waaa I can’t overcome them so cut me some slack. You clearly are using your “issues” as an EXCUSE for being a complete ASSHOLE 100% of the time. So for two years you haven’t been on your meds? Not likely. You talk shit about people behind their backs. You make up profiles on-line to defend yourself and to Fuck with people you don’t like (for no valid reason)!
How is it you can say “Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.” and then ask for pity in this pathetic post. You clearly have NO intention of ever changing and only look for excuses for being a complete DICK. You’ve over come NONE of your “issues” for the two years I’ve known you. And now this post!? Go Fuck yourself and stop being a complete asshole to people who have done NOTHING to you and don’t deserve it.
Instead of asking for pity why not CHANGE, go to the doctor and take your meds just like I and everyone else does who is Bi-Polar.
You are full of such self pity it’s disgusting. For the two years I’ve known you, you have been a CONSISTENT asshole, fuck and full on cunt!
I to was diagnosed with Bi-Polar five years ago and have NEVER been the asshole you have been/are. I take my meds everyday and see my Psychologist every 6 months and don’t blame anything I do on my “issue”.
From what I know about you dating I find it highly likely that you’ve forced yourself on a women. At your age you still have not learned how to talk to women.
Waaaaa I have issues, issue I want everyone’s self pity for instead of just overcoming them. Waaa I can’t overcome them so cut me some slack. You clearly are using your “issues” as an EXCUSE for being a complete ASSHOLE 100% of the time. So for two years you haven’t been on your meds? Not likely. You talk shit about people behind their backs. You make up profiles on-line to defend yourself and to Fuck with people you don’t like (for no valid reason)!
How is it you can say “Being successful means overcoming whatever is holding you back.” and then ask for pity in this pathetic post. You clearly have NO intention of ever changing and only look for excuses for being a complete DICK. You’ve over come NONE of your “issues” for the two years I’ve known you. And now this post!? Go Fuck yourself and stop being a complete asshole to people who have done NOTHING to you and don’t deserve it.
Instead of asking for pity why not CHANGE, go to the doctor and take your meds just like I and everyone else does who is Bi-Polar.
Did Tyler blame anything he does on what he said here? Did he ask for any pity?
You may have valid reasons for thinking Tyler’s an asshole. But this post, which is his response to attending a presentation on being authentic, shouldn’t be one of them.
Did Tyler blame anything he does on what he said here? Did he ask for any pity?
You may have valid reasons for thinking Tyler’s an asshole. But this post, which is his response to attending a presentation on being authentic, shouldn’t be one of them.
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Who the hell are you? Besides a coward, I mean.
Who the hell are you? Besides a coward, I mean.
Bi-Polar Bear, meet Bi-Curious George…. 😀
Bi-Polar Bear, meet Bi-Curious George…. 😀
Wow. Somebody’s more than a little butt-hurt. Did Tyler kill your dog, too.
Wow. Somebody’s more than a little butt-hurt. Did Tyler kill your dog, too.
I’ve never killed anyone’s dog!
I’ve never killed anyone’s dog!
The way your “guest” is acting, it sure sounds like it. For the record, you took very good care of my dog.
The way your “guest” is acting, it sure sounds like it. For the record, you took very good care of my dog.
Psh, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. That’s the point.
Psh, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. That’s the point.
Jackasses come in many anonymous shapes and sizes.
Jackasses come in many anonymous shapes and sizes.
Obviously you neither know Tyler, nor can you read. Everything about your comment shows you have a pre-determined view of a person that cannot be altered. As a result, you read the post like you wanted to and ignored what was being said, then made a jackass comment. You succeeded in getting me to feel pity for someone, unlike Tyler.
Obviously you neither know Tyler, nor can you read. Everything about your comment shows you have a pre-determined view of a person that cannot be altered. As a result, you read the post like you wanted to and ignored what was being said, then made a jackass comment. You succeeded in getting me to feel pity for someone, unlike Tyler.
Dear “Guest”
Don’t miss this opportunity. This is huge. It’s gut check time my friend…Reveal yourself.
And the next time you think to look down on some one, remember: Only God sits that high.
Everybody, “guest” included, have a fantastic afternoon!
Dear “Guest”
Don’t miss this opportunity. This is huge. It’s gut check time my friend…Reveal yourself.
And the next time you think to look down on some one, remember: Only God sits that high.
Everybody, “guest” included, have a fantastic afternoon!
Not only was “Guest’s” comment inappropriate, the grammar was downright offensive to everyone.
Not only was “Guest’s” comment inappropriate, the grammar was downright offensive to everyone.
You kick people around to make yourself feel better.
I would bet $100 that you have a parent who did this to you. True?
You kick people around to make yourself feel better.
I would bet $100 that you have a parent who did this to you. True?
Wow. How many lines are you going to cross with me?
Wow. How many lines are you going to cross with me?
This is not an attack. This is genuine curiosity.
This is not an attack. This is genuine curiosity.
You asked the question for your personal glorification in an attempt to shame me and at least one of my parents. It has nothing to do my with post.
If you’re attempting some sort of catharsis, I’d hope you’d find someplace more appropriate to discuss it.
You asked the question for your personal glorification in an attempt to shame me and at least one of my parents. It has nothing to do my with post.
If you’re attempting some sort of catharsis, I’d hope you’d find someplace more appropriate to discuss it.
What glory am I getting out of this? You’re dissecting your mental health in front of everyone. It raises questions.
(Also, it’s glaringly obvious that you were bullied.)
What glory am I getting out of this? You’re dissecting your mental health in front of everyone. It raises questions.
(Also, it’s glaringly obvious that you were bullied.)
Okay? Why does this matter to you? If you and your husband never sp
Okay? Why does this matter to you? If you and your husband never sp
You are a small and bitter person, just like your husband. I’m easy to
upset, which everyone knows.
My parents never beat me, nor was I bullied. Anything else?
You are a small and bitter person, just like your husband. I’m easy to
upset, which everyone knows.
My parents never beat me, nor was I bullied. Anything else?
Each of us has a journey and lessons we must learn so we can grow and heal. You have been through some really tough stuff and I’m glad that my story can be helpful in your process. Each day is a new opportunity to make different choices and become wiser and better 🙂
🙂
Each of us has a journey and lessons we must learn so we can grow and heal. You have been through some really tough stuff and I’m glad that my story can be helpful in your process. Each day is a new opportunity to make different choices and become wiser and better 🙂
🙂
Thanks! Look forward to seeing you this weekend.
Thanks! Look forward to seeing you this weekend.
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I don’t know what to say to that except for everything you said is true.
I don’t know what to say to that except for everything you said is true.