It’s not fun taking the blame. No one likes to be left holding the bag, or get failure pinned on them. While it can be a growing experience, it sure doesn’t seem like that at the time.
Many people get around this by blaming something else. Your spouse or friends could be holding you back or your boss could be holding you down. Being poor might be a problem. Not having the latest and greatest tech could be blamed as a source of your ills.
It’s crap and you know it. Far too often we seek someone to blame. We seek something to cast out and to let out our anger toward. Yeah, I bet you were late for that meeting because of traffic, or you forgot completely because your secretary or colleague didn’t tell you.
Shut up. Suck it up and take it head on. Blame solves absolutely nothing. It’s a cop out designed to save your fragile ego from disintegrating because what most people are really scared of is realizing that they aren’t good enough.
You aren’t going to get better until you have an idea as to where you are now. Chronically late? You’re probably disorganized, sloppy or a jackass who doesn’t care about other people’s time. Either fix it or accept the blame. Often left out of conversations that everyone else is having? Is it because you’re never around or maybe you lack the social skills to participate or the skill set to understand? Take it on the chin and get better.
We all control our lives. We choose who to associate with, we pick where to live and we select where to work. This power gives us one true center of blame for most of what happens to us.
You. You are to blame. Be your own Christ figure and fix the fucking problem.
How about a random post?
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Holy crap you stole my blog post (that I hadn't thought of yet). Though this subject's not discussed often enough, I might just put my own twist on it anyway. My main motto is to “practice what you bitch about.” It's held me accountable, or at least kept my mouth shut, on more than one occasion. I dig, brother.
“I'm here to kick ass and chew bubblegum, and I'm all out of gum.”
That's what I feel like you just said to me; in a good, motivating way, of course.
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